I just got back from a bat mitzvah for one of my students. I was so touched to be invited and to share in her beautiful ceremony. But I couldn't help but be appalled by the behavior of a few teens.
Dressed like a slut, one girl talked with her girlfriend and obviously some boy who was into her. They sat during the ceremony being distracting with their giggling. Then one girl, who had been pulling her dress this way and that to expose/hide her boobs, took off her shoes so she was now barefoot. THEN SHE STARTED PICKING HER TOES. Her friend, dressed in a tank top and too-short skirt kicked off her pink plastic flip flops and put her feet up, ala home-on-the-couch, and was only missing the tv remote. Several other girls were texting, but when the rabbi reminded everyone to not use phones, they put them away.
Sorry, I just had to vent. I can understand if you don't understand the customs or ways, but this was just ridiculous. I will learn from this to make sure to teach my son what to do/not to do in these situations so that he never ever embarrasses himself like that.
On the plus side, there were many more kids who were perfectly behaved, and I was very proud of them.